
The Link between Racism and Trauma
We have heard the term Racism swirling quite frequently in the media, political, corporate and the sports arena. But what is Racism? Racism is the routine, institutionalized mistreatment of a person based on his/her membership in a racial group that is on the downside of power. Some examples of racism are: (a) Being followed in stores, (b) profiling by law enforcement, (c)racial slurs, (d)confederate monuments, (e) microaggressions. You may wonder what are microaggression? -

Being Haunted By Loneliness
Desperation often leads people to make poor decisions as it relates to dating and relationships

Will You Hold Me?
Posted by Fellana Randall, LMFT “The body is the purest, most primal tool we have for communicating.” ~Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity Now that spring has officially arrived and we’re fully into what has been known in the dating scene as “Spring fling,” it makes us want to be out on the beach in the warm sun with a cold drink and getting noticed. With multiple outdoors activities, it’s been observed that many people, whether attached or unattached, actively seek out others

Hiding Talent: Women of Color
“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.” ~Alice Walker “I am a woman who came from the cotton fields of the South. From there I was promoted to the washtub. From there I was promoted to the cook kitchen. And from there I promoted myself into the business of manufacturing hair goods and preparations....I have built my own factory on my own ground.” ~Madam C. J. Walker The cape weighs heavy for today’s successful woman. Women seem to

Single Ladies in the Bay: Part 2
“You cannot belong to anyone else, until you belong to yourself.” ~Pearl Bailey In Part I, I discussed some mistakes and challenges experienced when dating in the Bay area. Now, I want to highlight the significance in learning to be alone. Alone is when you are apart from others. Oftentimes, we want a relationship because we feel lonely, which is when a person feels sad from being apart from others. But is it necessary to feel sad? Being single is the best time to get good at

Single Ladies in the Bay: Part 1
For women, dating in the Bay Area presents its own sets of challenges. Many obstacles are similar to the ones that women in any major city would face, but there are some circumstances that are unique to this area. What is dating other than skilled adult play? Sometimes women can be too calculating when searching to find her love, keeping everything on a schedule with timelines of what should happen, and when. Submitting to family pressures, societal expectations, and biologic