Do you fight fair or unfair? Fighting fair means you are open to what your partner is saying and is acknowledging your partner’s thoughts and feelings. Fighting fair is not being defensive and instead hearing what your partner is saying even though you may disagree. It is natural for you to be defensive when you engage in an intense argument with your partner. You may feel like you are being attacked – attacked of your personal beliefs and self-worth. Let’s address the 3

“Give me an experienced man. A man who has grown into a ready man, a cultured man, a worldly, confident man. A man that has discovered who he is in the world and what he wants. A man that has lived a healthy single life.” – Lita Lewis We are living in a society where people are becoming more and more socially disengaged and disconnected. People have come to feel connected and validated through superficial means that don’t really exist. Quick hits of validation from social med

Posted by Fellana Randall, LMFT “The body is the purest, most primal tool we have for communicating.” ~Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity Now that spring has officially arrived and we’re fully into what has been known in the dating scene as “Spring fling,” it makes us want to be out on the beach in the warm sun with a cold drink and getting noticed. With multiple outdoors activities, it’s been observed that many people, whether attached or unattached, actively seek out others

Lovers & Friends II: Nurturing Eroticism Valentine’s Day makes me think of chocolates and candy, flowers and hearts, sweet notes and smiles, and yes, sex and romance! In Part I, I discussed the importance of intimacy and compassion in long term relationships. Now let’s think about how to maintain, or regain, the fire and intensity in our long term relationships. I remember an older standup show of Chris Rock, where he posed the question: “Married and bored, or single and lone